Tuesday, June 23, 2009


Over the weekend my husband and I watched "The Curious Case of Benjamin Button". I really enjoyed the movie, but one part in particular brought me to tears. The part near the end after she realizes that he is her father and finds all the post cards that he wrote to her. One for each year of her life that he missed. This hit me particularly hard because had I made a different decision in my life, I would've been doing the same thing for my precious Jackson.

In 2004 I was pregnant, dating a loser, trying to go to school, waiting tables, and poor as crap. I think adoption is a beautiful thing. But adoption would've been so wrong for me. I had the love of my parents who promised to support me whether I kept my baby or not (as long as I didn't marry the donor). I was able to finish school and have a good way to support my baby. If I had chosen to give him up for adoption I would've regretted it every day of my life. I would be lost.

I know that movie/book is fiction, but it really got me thinking about how my life would've turned out if I'd made a different decision. I'm so lucky that I didn't have people pushing me in one direction or the other. I wish that every young girl who finds herself in such a precarious situation would be so lucky to have love and support while she makes such a life changing decision. Maybe if they had the opportunity to really take time to consider all their options there wouldn't be as many abortions, babies born in bathrooms then thrown in trash cans, or children abused and neglected because their mother didn't want them in the first place.


Heather said...

It breaks my heart people want to get rid of their babies and in such awful ways. When my sister can't even have one. Adoption is wonderful.

I am so glad you had such good support.

Jess said...

I was VERY lucky.

Mach Momma said...

I had my baby when I was 17 and a senior in high school. 24 years ago. Never Ever. Ever have regretted it. She was My Little Bit of Heaven and still is.
It sounds like are views are quite similar. Giving up my baby would have been the most torturous thing I can possibly think of other than a missing child. My family was great support as well. It was hard, that was back in the day when you got married no matter what and I bucked the system and said "Two wrongs don't make a right". I dropped her bio father and never looked back.
I agree it makes my heart break when people do so many unkind things to babies.
Your blog title cracks me up. too cute:)